Right on the monies.
Fuck Your Fear
Sorry for the language, but there’s power in that statement that you can’t asterisk out. It’s not the same.
Fuck Your Fear is a theme that stuck with me from Mick Napier’s Improvise: Scene from the Inside Out. In the book, he talks about how improvisers fear the consequences of their actions and often stick to safe choices. From the characters and relationships we play to heightening a scene or even being willing to step off the back line with nothing.
It’s tougher than it sounds. Taking action when you have no idea what to do. Or choosing to do something new or challenging. There’s risk there. You could embarrass yourself. You could say something weird. You could reveal true feelings.
And hello. Just like much of what you learn in improv, all of that applies to real life too.
I do it without thinking about it. I hesitate to act until something seems like it can’t go wrong. I worry about consequences and reactions. I want to control more so I can trust less. It’s craziness.
Anyway, I came across an article yesterday called How to Be Happier: Ten Things to Stop Doing Right Now (it’s okay, mom, I’m not depressed), and #10 on the list was “Fearing” — which I wanted to share.
We’re all afraid: of what might or might not happen, of what we can’t change, or what we won’t be able to do, or how other people might perceive us.
So it’s easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives.
Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by.
And so do our dreams.
Don’t let your fears hold you back. Whatever you’ve been planning, whatever you’ve imagined, whatever you’ve dreamed of, get started on it today.
If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you want to change careers, take the first step. If you want to expand or enter a new market or offer new products or services, take the first step.
Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Do anything.
Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever.
Today is the most precious asset you own—and is the one thing you should truly fear wasting.
More than anything, I wanted to say this out loud. Because I have show tonight and things on my mind and people to be honest with and decisions to make. And I know that I can’t successfully take on any of that until I’m willing to say Fuck My Fear.